Will To Power

I am a 21-year-old boy. I know many girls who are ready to share a bed with me. Is it right to enjoy sex with so many girls, or is sex something I should only do with my wife? I am still virgin, so please help me.
–Want To Be A Ladies’ Man

Provided you treat the women in your life with respect, use protection, and are honest with everyone involved, I see no problem with having premarital sex. Go ahead, live a little. Sex is most definitely not something you need to save for marriage unless you really want to. (Honestly, I don’t know very many people with that kind of willpower.) Just make sure you’re not all hung up on the idea of your wife being a virgin—if you’re allowed to have tested the waters before marriage, then she is, too. And remember kids, use condoms!

Facts About HIV And Sex

If an HIV-positive person performs oral sex on a healthy male, will the healthy man get the infection?
–Just Wondering

It’s possible, but only under a specific set of circumstances. The four fluids that can carry HIV are semen and pre-ejaculate fluid, blood, vaginal secretions, and breast milk, and the virus can only be transferred when four fluids come in contact with each other. Saliva does not carry HIV, so ordinarily the virus can’t be transferred from an HIV-positive man to an HIV-negative through oral sex. Even if your saliva comes in contact with his semen, you’re not going to transmit the virus. However, if you have a cut or sore on the inside or around your mouth and blood from the cut comes in contact with his semen, you can transfer the virus. Oral sex is not considered a “high-risk” sexual behavior for HIV-positive people to engage in, but it’s not risk-free, either. My advice: use a condom. When used correctly, condoms are one of the most effective ways of preventing sexually transmitted diseases and infections. It’s better to be safe than sorry. (That goes for all people engaging in any sexual behavior—straight or gay, HIV-positive or HIV-negative.)